Why We Got Married After 9 Months

It's true. Devanté and I met each other less than nine months before we got married... And it was the best decision I ever made.

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During our engagement, we received many questions. Questions such as, "why are you getting married only after knowing each other for nine months?" and "Don't you think you're rushing things too quickly?"

But here's the answer: I love Devanté. I love him more than words can express, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

It's that simple.

Although we had a lot of people concerned with our engagement, we also had a lot of support by our family and friends. I am now realizing that the people who made negative comments towards our marriage were people who really didn't know us, as the people who truly knew our hearts supported our decision. There are many reasons why we decided to get married after nine months, and the following are just a few...

We didn't settle
I am a strong believer in the fact that you could marry anyone you want and be happy- or learn to be. But I also believe that there is one perfect person for everyone. There are too many people settling. I can admit that I have almost settled many times. But I was never able to explain the feeling I continued to have that just maybe, there might be someone else. I found out why I felt this way when I met my husband, and I am so glad I never stopped believing there was something better. How blessed am I that I found my perfect match? I did not believe in a love like this before I met my husband, as I could never understand how I could be capable of loving someone so much.

We are committed
We were committed to each other even while we were dating. We promised each other that we would always stand next to each other and go through life together. We were in an inclusive relationship and we weren't scared of commitment. We knew that we were made for each other. So why should we have waited a two or three years before getting married if we were already committed? If our love was already this strong, why should we wait to sign some papers? What was the point of waiting something out that was inevitable to happen?

We made time for each other
During our relationship, we made time for each other. We were fortunate enough to see each other every day. We made each other a priority. Whether we spent the whole day together, or caught each other for a few minutes at night, we made sure we spent every spare minute together. I believe that this is why we became so close so quickly. If normal couples see each other twice a week, that is 100 days each year. Devanté  and I have spent over 300 days together. Can you see why we became so close?

We love the same way
We feel emotions to the extremes. We are both spontaneous, romantic, and supportive. When we love, we love with everything we have. And when we hurt, we hurt so deeply. We are extremely passionate about what we want and believe in.  We love each other with everything in us. It is so rare to find someone who loves the same way you do. And I believe that the reason for this is because we know how badly it hurts to feel unloved. And when people come into your life and understand both the love and pain you have been through, it makes you so much closer.

We are in the same stage of life
We both come from loving families. We have both lived in another country. We have been in college. We understand people, cultures, and different ways of living. We know what we want in life, and we are ready to get it. We both want to be successful in our jobs and passions. We both want to have a family. We are excited with moving forward in life TOGETHER. And yes, we have a long way to go until we "settle down". But why shouldn't we move forward together, instead of finding ourselves apart?